after almost 15 years of industrial trading experience, I tried to build a trading system just by myself. Sorry, it's not easy to find a partner to work with you since everyone is on a different pace for the life. I wrote 80% of system right now yet I found that it's really difficult to move forward without moral supports by just being with myself. How to address the loneliness for a lone trader?

bonniebrae 

after almost 15 years of industrial trading experience, I tried to build a trading system just by myself. Sorry, it's not easy to find a partner to work with you since everyone is on a different pace for the life. I wrote 80% of system right now yet I found that it's really difficult to move forward without moral supports by just being with myself. How to address the loneliness for a lone trader?

Add to that that everyone is in a different place in trading. An orderflow guy will be unfit to support an indicator guy and vice versa. The best thing that comes to mind is finding some room/channel where traders can chat realtime (like SMB or something). Or if you have local meetups of people doing trading, going there and trying to find someone who could be a trading buddy. If you find a solution, let us know, I've been dealing with this lot a too.

Cheers.

EDIT: If you're from Chicago ... I mean only a few cities are more trading-oriented than Chicago. I'd check the meetup scene.

bonniebrae 

after almost 15 years of industrial trading experience, I tried to build a trading system just by myself. Sorry, it's not easy to find a partner to work with you since everyone is on a different pace for the life. I wrote 80% of system right now yet I found that it's really difficult to move forward without moral supports by just being with myself. How to address the loneliness for a lone trader?

My friend, me too, been trading for almost two decades L O L. I could not imagine how or why you would become feeling 'alone' at this time of your trading lifestyle. Perhaps, it is the feeling of 'unsureness', 'uncertainty in certain areas', or run into someone or something that causes you to feel somewhat 'not quite adequate, or not quite feeling as secured as you once so strongly felt and confident. For whatever reasons, by nature, future traders are introverts to the t, while trading. For myself, I never have time to think about being alone or feeling loneliness. As a matter of fact, I choose to be alone while my 4 trading screens are on L O L.

That is just me, K.

Did something happen recently, perhaps, relationships....?

Well, that was just my two-penny, alright.

Best to you.

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On the contrary, I find I made a lot of progress by staying away from all Telegram/Whatsapp trader groups I was part of before 2022.

The sooner you realize you will never really have the "ideal" partner for this, the better it is. It's an extremely personal affair.

My go to read and learn places are still there, but it's usually never about emotional or moral thing, for emotional and moral support you can look for someone who is not into trading, tbh that has worked better for me.


Sometimes just more untainted perspective helps in keeping you sane.

AllSeeker 

On the contrary, I find I made a lot of progress by staying away from all Telegram/Whatsapp trader groups I was part of before 2022. The sooner you realize you will never really have the "ideal" partner for this, the better it is. It's an extremely personal affair. My go to read and learn places are still there, but it's usually never about emotional or moral thing, for emotional and moral support you can look for someone who is not into trading, tbh that has worked better for me. Sometimes just more untainted perspective helps in keeping you sane.

This might be the case. EXTREMELY personal affair. Maybe there are other reasons which caused this. But stopping searching might be the answer.

Hi @bonniebrae

The following is simply a list of ideas. If you are interested in just one of them and you can pick it up, then it was worth writing this short posting.

First, congratulations on building 80% of your trading system solo—that’s a huge achievement. The loneliness you’re feeling is common among solo traders and entrepreneurs; the grind of working alone, especially in a high-stakes field like trading, can feel isolating. Here are a few ways to address it:

• Even if others aren’t at your exact pace, finding someone (even one person) to share weekly progress with can help. Platforms like “Meetup.com” have threads for finding accountability partners.

• Consider mentoring someone less experienced. Teaching can reignite motivation and create a sense of purpose.

• You don’t need a full-time partner. Outsource specific tasks (e.g., backtesting, UI design) on freelancing platforms. Engaging with others, even transactionally, can reduce isolation.

• Open-source a small part of your project on GitHub. Engaging with contributors might spark connections.

• Work from co-working spaces or coffee shops occasionally. Even passive social presence can ease loneliness.

• Attend trading/tech meetups (or virtual ones) to network. Many cities have quant/fintech groups.

• If loneliness is draining motivation, consider a coach or therapist familiar with entrepreneurs. They can help you navigate the psychological hurdles of solo work

What you’re feeling isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a signal that humans aren’t wired to create in a vacuum. The key is to find small, sustainable ways to integrate connection without derailing your progress. Even Einstein had his "Olympia Academy" friends to debate ideas with; your trading system might thrive with a tiny dose of collective energy.

I wish you further success in your trading.

Symple

This webinar hosted here by FuturesTrader71 may provide valuable insight for you on the subject:

AllSeeker 

On the contrary, I find I made a lot of progress by staying away from all Telegram/Whatsapp trader groups I was part of before 2022. The sooner you realize you will never really have the "ideal" partner for this, the better it is. It's an extremely personal affair. My go to read and learn places are still there, but it's usually never about emotional or moral thing, for emotional and moral support you can look for someone who is not into trading, tbh that has worked better for me. Sometimes just more untainted perspective helps in keeping you sane.

Have to agree! I have other interests, that get me out and about and provide the social side I need and often crave - but nothing trading related - and it's been the best thing for my trading.

Everyone has their opinion on the markets, but it's only as good as their analysis and understanding - so I prefer not to discuss my trading, or take on any opinions - because it will only taint my view of the markets. I choose to 'opt out' of any discussions apart from a few forums I value a few years back and it really has cleared my head.

I no longer get caught up in FOMO and panic trading. I take my time with my analysis - and therefore am totally comfortable with my decision if I get it wrong. I take full responsibility for my trading - the bad, but also the good!

Can you find other interests away from your trading? Even something creative, dancing etc - it's great to build the left brain/right brain balance. WD Gann said his best results came after a break from trading.

I started to talk about my projects with one of my old friend. He gave me some suggestions. Somehow I magically moved forward quite a lot. He is not doing what I am doing. Sometimes it's lucky to have a few good friends after so many years. Also big thanks to this forum. Some of the posts trigger some good ideas.

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Trading feels incredibly lonely sometimes. How do others deal with this?

Your experience echoes throughout the trading community. Trading isolation is real - you make decisions alone, bear losses alone, and often can't share victories meaningfully with non-traders who don't understand the journey.

Consider these approaches:

Structured interaction: Join live trading rooms during market hours - even silent companionship helps. NexusFi's community provides this anchor.

Scheduled breaks: Force social activities after market close. Physical activities with others (gym classes, sports leagues) provide essential balance.

Trading journal as companion: Detailed journaling becomes dialogue with your future self - reviewing past entries shows growth and provides perspective during difficult periods.

Mentorship: Teaching newer traders or finding a mentor creates meaningful trading relationships.

Remember: Successful traders aren't emotionless - they've learned to channel emotions productively. Loneliness can sharpen focus, but connection prevents it from becoming destructive isolation.

-- Fi
"In solitude we find ourselves; in community we find meaning."